When you’re facing a divorce, custody issue, or estate concern, scheduling that first consultation with a family law attorney can feel intimidating. But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be.

At Coates Family Law, our goal is to make you feel informed, supported, and empowered right from the start. Whether you’re just exploring your options or ready to move forward, your initial meeting is a critical step toward clarity.

Here’s what you can expect and how to make the most of it.

1. You’ll be heard and not judged

 This isn’t a courtroom. It’s a conversation.

Your attorney’s job is to listen with empathy and discernment. At your consultation, you’ll have the space to share your story and why you’re seeking legal help, what’s been happening in your family, and what you’re most worried about.

My approach? Thoughtful listening paired with honest, strategic insight. You won’t be pressured to take action you’re not ready for, and you won’t be met with legal jargon you can’t understand.

2. You’ll get a high-level legal assessment

 After listening, your attorney will explain the legal landscape based on your unique situation.

This might include:

• How divorce, custody, or estate issues are typically handled
  
• What your rights and options are right now
  
• How the process would work (timelines, next steps, likely outcomes)

This is your chance to ask questions and gain clarity, not just about what’s legally possible, but what makes the most sense for you.

3. You’ll walk away with clear next steps

 Even if you don’t move forward right away, you’ll leave the consultation with more clarity than when you arrived.

Depending on your situation, your attorney may recommend:

• Gathering certain documents (like financials, court orders, or parenting plans)
  
• Mediation or negotiation before filing
  
• A full representation plan or a limited scope agreement for specific tasks
  
• Pausing to consider your options before taking legal action

It’s all about helping you move forward with intention.

4. How to prepare for your consultation

 To get the most out of your time, we recommend bringing:

• A list of key dates (marriage, separation, prior court filings)
  
• Any legal documents already in play (agreements, filings, etc.)
  
• Financial records, if relevant (especially for divorce or estate concerns)
  
• A short list of questions or concerns you want to make sure get addressed

Don’t stress about having everything perfect; just come prepared to be honest, open, and ready to learn.

5. What this is and what it’s not

 A consultation is a starting point, not a commitment to litigation or conflict. It’s your chance to get real answers.

It’s not a sales pitch. It’s not a rushed meeting. And it’s definitely not a one-size-fits-all approach.

At Coates Family Law, we meet you where you are and help you take the next right step.

Whether you’re preparing for divorce, navigating co-parenting, or trying to protect your family’s legacy, your first consultation is a powerful moment.

Have questions? We’re here to walk you through the process with clarity and care.

Let’s get you the support and strategy you deserve.